Leaving an unhappy marriage, or any unhappy relationship, is a difficult choice. Some people fall for the idea that you must stay married no matter what. However, research shows that an unhappy marriage has many negative consequences. Although severing ties with a poor marriage may lead to a “happy divorce”, it doesn’t always translate to a cheerful phase for everyone involved. The ensuing strain on mental health can exact a hefty toll.
You can make a challenging time more bearable by approaching divorce healthily and calmly. This will help you find happiness sooner. A happier life is a better life. So, how can you achieve this?
- During the divorce process, taking time for self-reflection and attending to your mental and emotional health is crucial.
- Reassessing your living environment and removing painful reminders of your old life can help you focus on starting anew. This can include rearranging furniture, applying a fresh coat of paint, or introducing new artwork.
- Engaging in physical activities and hobbies can improve your health, clear your mind, and provide a sense of fun.
- If you’re co-parenting, developing a civil relationship with your ex-spouse can lead to a happier post-divorce life. Family dispute resolution (FDR) services can provide a safe, unbiased space for parties to resolve their issues.
- Uncertainty can cause stress and a sense of helplessness during a divorce. Being prepared, whether having all relevant financial information on-hand for a property settlement or cooperating with the other party in parenting arrangements, can make the process more manageable and less stressful.
Throughout the divorce process, you should be mindful of your well-being. It’s easy to be absorbed in negative emotions while organising property settlements and parenting arrangements and forget to take time for yourself. Take time daily for self-reflection and attend to your mental and emotional health. Doing so can help your approach to divorce. Here are some tips for managing your self-care.
Assess your environment
Reassess your living environment. There may be painful reminders, such as photos and memorabilia, of an old life you want to put behind you. Removing those reminders can help you focus on starting a new life.
Your interior decor can also bring back memories. Rearranging furniture, a fresh coat of paint, or new artwork can help you move on with your life.
Exercise has several positive traits. You will improve your health and fitness. But exercise can also help you psychologically. Going for a run and getting some fresh air clears your mind. It’s better to expend your energy on something positive rather than worrying about things beyond your control.
Exercise is also an excellent social activity. Getting together with friends and working out can bring much-needed fun to an otherwise trying time. That strong support system is a significant advantage in itself.
Pick up a hobby
Finding happiness in a hobby can help occupy your mind. Hobbies can also be a great way to socialise and make new friends.
You may pursue a new activity or rediscover an old passion. Anything that brings a sense of fun into your life will contribute to your well-being.
Be open to mediation
If you’re co-parenting, you need to cooperate. An acrimonious divorce doesn’t benefit anyone, especially if kids are involved. It’s best to develop a civil relationship with your ex-spouse to get to a happy place post-divorce.
Family dispute resolution (FDR) services are invaluable if any conflict arises. FDR provides a space for parties to work through their issues. It is unbiased and non-judgmental, so everyone feels safe expressing their concerns. FDR is mandatory before applying for court orders.
One of the most significant sources of stress and frustration in family law matters is uncertainty. Uncertainty can cause a sense of helplessness as the process feels out of your control. To counteract this, ensure that you’re prepared.
If you’re going through a divorce property settlement, have all relevant financial information on-hand. For example, you should be able to produce information on bank accounts, share portfolios, debts, real estate holdings etc. Ensure your ex-spouse fully discloses their information as well.
If you’re organising parenting arrangements, cooperate with the other party as much as possible. You can make the process more manageable by avoiding unnecessary conflict. If you have irreconcilable differences, gather evidence to support your case. Witness statements, school reports, photos and other supporting documentation can help. Being confident in your case will make the process easier to cope with.
Let us help to achieve a happy divorce
Divorce is never easy. It’s essential to look after your emotional well-being during these difficult periods. Find self-care strategies that work for you.
Divorce is more manageable with strategies in place to foster cooperation. If you go to court, ensure you’re prepared to make the process as easy as possible. Though you can file a divorce online, it is better to find experienced divorce lawyers who can help guide you through those proceedings. Trying to resolve conflicts through mediation before appealing to the court also helps.
We’re focused on finding alternative ways to resolve family law matters at Shanahan Family Law. Call us today for an initial free discovery call to see how our team can help.